I know this momma has been on a break from the blogging for a bit but “mommin’ ain’t easy!” Lol. I thought that as my son got older, it would get a bit easier but that’s totally not the case. Call me crazy but I seriously felt like I had more energy to clean the house, do the laundry, get a workout in and still have dinner on the table when he was a newborn, even with the sleep deprivation! Could be that he was less active, easily entertained and naps lasted longer than 20 minutes. I’m not complaining though, I love being home with my little guy. It’s been an adjustment to say the least! I went from being a working momma who did 40 hour weeks with a 5 year old to now being home and working around the clock with two kiddos. The difference is so crazy. I used to have this glamorized notion of what a stay at home mom was. If I’m being honest here, stay at home moms to me were like these mythical creatures I totally wanted to be! The women who somehow were up at the crack of dawn, making breakfast, packing lunches, with an immaculate house and still found the time for lunch dates, play dates, shopping, all while looking fabulous (or at least that’s how it seems in the movies). BOY WAS I WRONG! What a reality check this experience has been lol.
Seriously, my hair lives in a nest, I’m in my pj’s till about 1 pm, running around the house trying to do a million things, most times with 6 1/2 month chunker attached to my hip, all before I have to pick my daughter up from school, then come back and have dinner ready before my fiancé gets home. I thought I had it down in the beginning and I even started working out but the sleep deprivation totally caught up. I think the hardest part for me is not feeling productive enough. I beat myself up on the days when I just want to lay on the couch because I need a break. I beat myself up on the days where the laundry’s clean but still sitting in the hamper because I have a baby attached to my boob and he refuses to nap. I beat myself up on the days when my fiancé comes home and buys dinner because I just really couldn’t adult that day. This mom business is tough!(BUT totally worth it). This transition from working mom to stay at home has been a roller coaster of emotions.
On one hand, I feel so blessed to be able to stay home with my little guy and that I am able to pick my daughter up from school right at dismissal when before, I’d work till 5 and she was in aftercare until about 5:30 and she’d always plead with me to pick her up early. But then there are days when I miss working and having social interaction with other adults and just being out of the house. I’m so used to being independent and some days I get overwhelmed with guilt. I feel guilty for not contributing monetarily (even though my fiancé says I am because raising our kids is a full time job in itself), I feel guilty on the days where I stayed in bed a little longer than I would’ve liked to. It’s something I struggle with internally. My fiancé is absolutely amazing and I’m extremely grateful to have his support, he never makes me feel bad but I just create this guilt and anxiety within myself. Thank God he deals with my crazy lol.
Being a stay at home mom (for me at least) is having to eat your breakfast in the afternoon sometimes, it’s showering with the light off because the bathroom fan is so loud and you need to hear if the baby is crying or not, it’s using the bathroom with your kid on your lap, it’s doing laundry and folding it a week later (not always lol), it’s cleaning the house with your 20lb baby strapped to you, it’s falling asleep while playing with your daughter, it’s so many things but the most important is that it’s worth it. These moments are temporary and the kiddos won’t be this small forever. So I’m going to cherish these crazy days, even when they are long and momma needs an extra large mojito! 🍹
Xoxo – Babymommablogga out! ✌🏼